I Have A Question For You (Three Minute Read)

I ask a lot of questions. I do so not only because it’s a necessity for a Mediator, but also because I am genuinely interested in the answers. Call it natural curiosity, call it being a good listener, or call it deflecting the interest away from me.  Whatever....

Fighting In Front of the Kids (Three Minute Read)

For my first blog in the new year, I was all set to write something inspirational. And then this happened: a couple going through a particularly ugly break-up, confessed to me that they fight in front of their kids.  And they said they can see how it’s...

Are you a Translator or an Interpreter? (Three-Minute Read)

I recently had a sad conversation with a daughter who’s having difficulty communicating with her old-school dad. When I was in college, we called it a generation gap and I think that’s still a good description. But that scenario gave me food for thought:...

Grandma, It’s Time to Take Away Your Car Keys (Three Minute Read)

What issues might be of concern to your aging parents or grandparents?  Maybe one or more of these: 1. Care, safety, and comfort; 2. Physical situation; 3. Sexuality/companionship; 4. End of life decisions; and 5. Mental capacity Wow! Tough stuff. We tend to avoid...

How Do You Handle Change? (Three Minute Read)

My mom liked to move the furniture around. On any given day, and for no particular reason, I’d come home from school to find the living room couch on the opposite wall, or my dad’s recliner somewhere new.  Those minor changes in the house made me feel...

Second Chances (Three Minute Read)

I’m a big believer in second chances, and in third, fourth — well maybe I’ll stop there. I know from personal as well as from professional experience that there isn’t an ‘always’ or a ‘never’ when it comes to second...

Strategic Faking (A Three-Minute Pre-Thanksgiving Read)

Do you dread Thanksgiving with your family?  Is it because of your mother-in-law’s condescending questioning?  Or your dad’s inability to engage in a decent conversation?  Does your sister pretend the dried-out turkey is the best one yet?  Are you the only...

The Seven Stages of Getting Fired (Three Minute Read)

We’ve all heard about the seven stages of grief: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, testing, and acceptance. Does the same model work when you’ve been fired? Let’s assume you weren’t fired because of your age, race, gender, religion,...

Emotional Blackmail (Three Minute Read)

You want out. The relationship is over. You’re beyond ready to move out and move forward, but she’s threatening to hurt herself.  Or worse. IMPORTANT: Threats of suicide can be very real. Make sure you get in touch with a suicide prevention and/or support...