Strategic Faking (A Three-Minute Pre-Thanksgiving Read)

Do you dread Thanksgiving with your family?  Is it because of your mother-in-law’s condescending questioning?  Or your dad’s inability to engage in a decent conversation?  Does your sister pretend the dried-out turkey is the best one yet?  Are you the only...

The Seven Stages of Getting Fired (Three Minute Read)

We’ve all heard about the seven stages of grief: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, testing, and acceptance. Does the same model work when you’ve been fired? Let’s assume you weren’t fired because of your age, race, gender, religion,...

Emotional Blackmail (Three Minute Read)

You want out. The relationship is over. You’re beyond ready to move out and move forward, but she’s threatening to hurt herself.  Or worse. IMPORTANT: Threats of suicide can be very real. Make sure you get in touch with a suicide prevention and/or support...

“Dear Mediator” (Three Minute Read)

People sometimes ask me for advice about communication. And to be perfectly honest, sometimes I give it without being asked.  (Note to self:  write blog about people who provide unsolicited advice. ) In the meantime, here are a few examples: Question: Carrie’s sister...

It’s Just Good Business (Three Minute Read)

The opportunity for a dispute to arise in a business relationship happens far more frequently than you might guess.  But I’m not here to convince you to get it in writing.  You already know that. What I’m wondering is whether you have a mediation clause in...

The Grey Divorce Phenomenon (Three Minute Read)

Over the past five years, I have seen a surprising increase in the number of couples seeking my mediation services to help end their 20-35 year marriages.  I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the concept of “grey divorce” (as in older couples with...

When Adults Act Like Children (Three Minute Read)

A couple of years ago, I met with three adult brothers whose mother, Peggy,  had passed away. Although Peggy had a Will to take care of distributing her real estate, and she was foresighted enough to divide her savings into three equal accounts naming each son as a...

I’m Mad at my Work Spouse (Three Minute Read)

Co-existing with your office mate can be challenging.  Minor annoyances, such as humming or whistling, can escalate when you perceive that your co-worker isn’t carrying his/her own weight.  And what if you’re angry with your business partner, your...

Your Dog’s View on Divorce (Three Minute Read)

My humans just dropped a bombshell on me.  They’re getting a divorce and my world will never be the same.  How could they make such a drastic decision without consulting me?  After all,  I am an important member of this family! They decided that I’m going...